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Q.038. If you don’t want men to chat you up, you should be a little careful of what images you upload of yourself…Won’t the pics in your gallery give out the wrong signals?
A.038. That's tantamount to saying that women who wear short skirts deserve getting raped.

Surely you didn't think those pictures were there just for YOUR benefit???

If you'd read A.005., you'd know that I'm hoping some old friends of mine would try to get in touch with me again via the internet...Now, how would they be able to match up all the details provided, and verify they've got the right person unless they can see what I look like??? Also, those mates who haven't disappeared into the woodwork may also want to know how I've got on, and how much I've changed (not much), what I've been up to...The Gallery is there to serve that purpose...A nice collection of memories I want to share (I'm sure everyone must have had quite a few snapshots taken of them as they meander through life...they serve as a record of what you've been up to, where you've been etc...the only kind of immortality we can ever hope to attain), or samples showing a variety of work I've done...(You don't have to look if you don't want to!)...I mean, what's the point of having so many nice pics if no one gets to see them??? Photographers will also need to view my pictures to get a sense of perspective...That's the only way they can find out if I'm suitable for any assignment they have in mind.

With all the dishonesty circulating round the cyber highways, I do feel that being able to put a face to a name could make someone more 'genuine'...and the more photos, the better, so it doesn't look like you nicked them off someone else...Photos give a person a little more substance. Otherwise, all you are is a disembodied voice. Why would I put up pictures of other people on my HOMEpage? It makes no sense...Of course, there will always be a few who would insist on using fake images (why not just have NO image if you're THAT bothered about how you look? Or just an avatar?) on their pages, but how long can they keep up the charade before someone gets wise? Besides, as long as one keeps all safety precautions in mind, all these net encounters are generally pretty secure.

And with regards to the kind of images I display...Who on EARTH is going to DELIBERATELY upload pictures of him/herself looking ugly??? (Unless it's to make a statement...like those of me pulling silly faces.)

Woohoo!!!! So I'm an Exhibitionist and I rejoice in whatever it is that nature has bestowed upon me...BIG DEAL....I feel no shame in flaunting it, since all too soon, it will all disappear anyway...My philosophy is - enjoy it while you've got it...Yes, I am fully aware of how others might perceive me, and do expect some form of character assassination from recalcitrant individuals (whom I'd like to add, only make up the minority...should I cower in fear of them?), but it doesn't mean I should be made responsible for THEIR lack of self-control (How is it that some of us can acknowledge beauty in others without trying to get into their pants, whilst others can't? Makes me wonder if they walk around with a perpetual hard-on everytime they go to the beach!)...and yes, I don't deny that I am attention-seeking (It was never my intention to pass it off as anything else...Vanity hath ever been my biggest vice...Yeap, I rather like myself...If you have a problem with that, do something about your serotonin levels), but I hate to break it to you...that's actually within the scope of normality...Attention-Seeking is a very human trait (people approach this attitude with total negativity only because the concept that it is 'wrong' and 'shameful' was drummed into them over the years, and they have difficulty thinking outside the box)...Nothing wrong with it...EVERYONE does it...even YOU...the difference is in HOW it is done, and WHY...I do not believe there is a SINGLE person on this planet who is COMPLETELY self-effacing...So maybe I do things in a big way...that's just what I'm like...It doesn't hurt anyone, and I usually stick up a health warning...so how is that anybody's affair?

Stop being so prudish...

People can wank all they want when looking at David and my pics (I do find the thought of that rather comical...[HAS A FIT OF THE GIGGLES]...I'm sorry, that was very naughty of me, but it just seems so...so...I don't know...desperate, I guess, since porn can be found almost anywhere these days, and I'm certainly no Annabelle Chong or anyone as delectable...Mind you, I do get a kick out of knowing that others find David desirable...makes me feel even more proud to be with him...We are eminently suited...I do not think I could countenance a partner who would put me in shackles or keep me shrouded in veils...I need the freedom to find myself, to BE myself), just as long as they don't kid themselves that their lustful/romantic thoughts and feelings are reciprocated. Like most human beings, I enjoy being the recipient of compliments, and will express due thanks to anyone kind enough to convey them, and accept legitimate offers of friendship or any constructive criticism (note that the operative word here is 'constructive' as opposed to 'malicious') which might lead to much philosophising, but that's where it ends.

Also, I'd like to comment on something I've increasingly noticed on other sites...People (funny enough, mainly women who either a] don't display pics of themselves, or b] have their ratings turned off because they can't get it through their numbskulls that the voting system isn't a true indicator of one's worth) who bang on about how they can't stand those who KNOW they are good-looking...Now, I can see their point if they are referring to individuals who literally believe they are god's gift to the human race...but the majority of such bitching seems to be directed at ALL attractive individuals who have done nothing but mind their own business...Jesus! What is so wrong with someone having confidence in his or her looks and intelligence? Our lives depend not just on what we think of ourselves, and our own actions, but also on how others perceive us and treat us (Obviously, we shouldn't get too carried away here by trying to please everybody...After all, the only opinions that truly DO matter are those of our loved ones)...One cannot survive as a hermit (not for very long at any rate, and not very well either), and it is human nature to want to be someone who can make a difference, to fight, to make a point, to be recognised, or simply to BE...The truth of the matter is that if these people believe that they have what it takes to turn heads, they too would use that to make others around them sit up and listen, to stand up and be counted...They just haven't got the balls to admit it...not even to themselves...At this day and age, when people have such an issue about the way they look, I think it's refreshing to meet a woman who has the temerity to say with confidence, "Yes, I am happy with my body, and wouldn't change a thing about it." Perhaps if more people had better self-esteem, the world would have less problems, and possibly less strife and war!

I'm just sick and tired of reading profiles which are blatantly one mega pubescent whinge-fest (or rather, I HOPE they're kids, 'cos I shudder to think what the world's coming to if they were adults) about how much life sucks and how crap they feel, publicising how often they self-harm (with pics to boot!), trying to gain the reader's sympathy so people will go "Oh! Poor ickle you...Yeah, I feel the same way too!" Thus, validating all that shite...Puhleeze...They don't even realise how trite they sound...There is a huge difference between those who truly suffer and need someone to turn to, and those who attempt to cloak mental illnesses in an aura of heroism and martyrdom...What's worse is, even a textbook case Borderline like me can see that such behaviour is counter-productive, and actually harmful not just to themselves but to viewers who may truly find it 'triggering', particularly the more impressionable adolescents...It makes their claims of Depression slightly questionable...Are they doing it just to look 'cool'? I can think of better bait than doom and gloom when fishing for compliments...Unless of course, all they want is to evoke pity, which seems rather pathetic to me. Any dumb cretin can communicate his/her angst-ridden plight...the true challenge is in rising above it...I suppose, in their own way, these people are pretty fucked up, but really...is that any excuse? Diminished responsibility, my arse! Unless they subconsciously dissociate 24/7, they must have lucid moments to be able to go about their daily business, and must know that something isn't right up there...Even cancer patients have to make the effort to seek treatment...No one can help people like that unless they first help themselves. It's not like someone can get well for you, is it?

Q.039. When were those photos taken?
A.039. Mostly late 2004 or 2005...The rest were taken over the last 3 years, so they're recent enough. I didn't bother dating them as I haven't changed all that much since I was...ooh...16...I look exactly the same (apart from my hair being a lot longer now), so what's the point? I've recently done more shoots, so will have more new pics up again...

Q.040. Who were the photographers?
A.040. Personal snapshots are usually by David, myself, a family member or a mate...Professional ones are by various photographers, including David...I wouldn't nick them if I were you...They're copyrighted. A full list of photographers I've worked with will be uploaded soon...

Q.041. You look very different in each image. Are all those pics of you???
A.041.  Noooo, I steal the pictures of other girls because I have too much time on my hands...In reality, I am a fat, sleazy, balding 52-year-old perv suffering from mid-life crisis and 'yellow fever'. I feel the need to surround myself with badges of wealth, commonly referred to as BMW Convertibles, in an attempt to resurrect my youth...Sometimes, that even works...particularly if I live in Thailand. The whole idea is to chat up young, nubile Oriental girls (who look much like the one in the Gallery) by pretending to be a woman myself, and ultimately securing a Mail-Order Bride.

But seriously, if you do have any doubts about my identity, all you have to do is approach an association like BBC which has a forum, and regularly organises meets that I have attended, so members have met me in the flesh...some of them even took pictures together with me, as you can see at the forum.

A lot of people have asked me the same question as I can appear very different depending on my facial expressions, what I'm wearing, and which angle you look at me etc etc...Even David himself has remarked upon this...He claims that everytime he looks at me, he sees a different woman, which must make his life pretty exciting, especially when you take into account the BPD!!! Hey! That's a lot of women for the price of one!!! :-p

Q.042. You look very young in those pictures. Are you sure you’re not lying about your age?
A.042. My natural mum died when I was 8, so it's a little difficult for me to ask her, but I have it on my dad's authority that I was born in September 28 years ago...He's getting on a bit, but I'm sure his memory hasn't deteriorated enough to be that far off the mark.

Q.043. How do you keep yourself looking so good?
A.043. By simply having a more or less healthy, active lifestyle that allows me to eat whatever I like, whenever I like (I don't 'do' hunger...like many Asians, my life also revolves around food glorious food...before we finish one meal, we're already planning next week's menu...Women who starve themselves are fools...Dunno where they get that idea from...all that does is lower your metabolism, then you're back to square one again...If people really want to lose weight, there are sensible ways to do it...And throwing up after bingeing is a bad idea as we all know...Look at Terri Schiavo...Not only did all that purging fail in making her look anymore attractive, it also brought her to a rather undignified end...a shame for she was actually a good-looking woman before all that...Plus, it's such a WASTE of good food!!!! I don't suppose anything I'm saying now would get through to anyone who truly suffers from an eating disorder, but it was worth a shot)...I'm not completely flawless, I'll have you know...No one is...Breastfeeding has knackered my nipples for a start...I'm also starting to get dark circles, and am still getting spots (I hate the way my face advertises the fact that it's my 'moon time'. It's enough to make my mood match the volcanic landscape of my skin!!! This is really ridiculous since I should be more worried about wrinkles at my age!)...But I make it a point not to ruin my body with a crap diet, alcohol and other unsanitary habits...Ok, so maybe I eat a little more chocolate than I should (bad, bad girl...serves you right when you get an IBS attack!!!), but I am also pretty hyper and consume a good mix of edibles from the other food groups, so it all balances out...Even pregnancy didn't affect me very much as I took care of myself very well...Most women take the 'eat for two' idea a little too far...I suppose being thin to begin with does help as well, and so does breastfeeding...I'm the sort of person who looks for the good in someone before I see the bad...I believe that, apart from those unfortunate ones who contract some sort of defect at birth, no one is born ugly...People make themselves unattractive by not taking care of themselves...It's very rare for there to be a medical reason...

Q.044. Who's done all the design work here?
A.044. Most of my images were created by the photographers who took them, so obviously, I can't claim any credit for the pictures...However, most of this site has been designed by me, using basic HTML...I'm now coming to grips with CSS and RSS feeds, so you'll often find changes on the pages here...I use this as my practice ground...I'm also learning Flash, and have bought myself a proper domain name, so everything will be shifted there at some point in the future...I'm still a novice (all that I've learnt or am learning is self-taught...don't have no fancy qualifications for web design...just the luck of trial and error...lol), so please bear with me...Someday, I promise you, I'll build a kick-ass homepage!!!

If any of the pages on this site do not work, email the exact details of the problem to me, and I'll sort it out...But before you do that, eliminate other possibilities by doing a virus scan, clear out your cookies and temp folder, and make sure you've not got a firewall running on your machine...the usual suspects.

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